Why Every Nigerian Lady Dating A Man Abroad Thinks She’s Better Than You

Why Every Nigerian Lady Dating A Man Abroad Thinks She’s Better Than You

Have you noticed the way some ladies change once they say, “My boyfriend is in Canada” or “My man dey UK”? Suddenly, ordinary gist becomes international gist. She will be forming accent on top WhatsApp voice note, even though na Ojota she still dey. In her mind, she has entered another level because her man is not on Nigerian soil.

The behavior is usually small-small at first. She’ll start calling you “dear” with pity, like you’re suffering because your own man lives down the street. Next thing, she begins to measure her life with “abroad standards.” “Babe, you know in UK they don’t do things like this…” Meanwhile, she has never crossed Murtala Muhammed Airport before.

Part of it comes from the illusion that dating a man abroad equals soft life. She pictures Valentine’s gifts arriving through DHL, money dropping like water, and wedding pictures taken in snowy streets of London. So in her head, she’s already one step ahead of every girl whose boyfriend is hustling in Lagos traffic.

But the reality is not always as sweet as Instagram makes it look. Many “abroad boyfriends” are working three jobs just to pay rent, and the long-distance wahala can test love more than NEPA takes light. Yet the Nigerian lady dating him will often carry it like badge of honor, forgetting that peace of mind and genuine love don’t need a foreign address.

The truth? There’s nothing wrong with dating a man abroad. But it doesn’t make you superior to your sisters here. At the end of the day, relationship success is not measured in flight tickets or foreign currencies… it’s measured in love, respect, and shared vision. Proverbs 19:14 says, “A prudent wife is from the Lord.” Not from Canada, not from America, but from the Lord.

So the next time your friend starts forming like she’s now “international babe” because of her abroad man, just smile. Because when all is said and done, the real question is… can she build a lasting home, or is it just vibes and visa?