Signs Your Boyfriend Is Only Dating You Because You’re Available
Sometimes it’s not that he loves you… it’s just that you’re the one who picked his calls, replied his chats, and said “yes” when others were busy forming. Nigerian men can be funny like that. Instead of waiting for real conviction, some just slide into the arms of the girl who was simply available.
One sign is when he’s never intentional about you. He doesn’t plan dates, doesn’t surprise you, doesn’t even try to know your dreams. He’s just there, collecting your time and attention, but giving nothing serious in return. Sis, that’s not love… that’s convenience.
Another red flag is when you notice he talks about “future wife” like it’s not you. He’ll be describing the woman he wants to marry and, deep inside, you can tell it doesn’t match who you are. Translation: you’re the placeholder until his “real spec” shows up.
Also, check how he introduces you. If every time you ask “what are we?” he dodges with “Let’s just enjoy the moment” or “Don’t worry, I’m here”… that’s code for “I’m just passing time.” A man who truly sees you as his own will not be shy to claim you.
The painful part is, some ladies sense it but keep quiet because at least they’re not lonely. But truth be told, being single is far better than being with someone who doesn’t value you. Psalm 139:14 reminds us that you’re fearfully and wonderfully made. Don’t reduce yourself to an option for a man who’s only with you because you picked the call first.
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