How To Know If My Boyfriend Really Loves Me Genuinely Or Just Faking It

How To Know If My Boyfriend Really Loves Me Genuinely Or Just Faking It

Have you ever sat down after a sweet phone call with your boyfriend and suddenly asked yourself, “Does this guy truly love me… or is he just catching cruise?” You know that feeling when you’re not totally sure if what you’re seeing is love or packaging? It happens to plenty sisters, and sometimes, the answer is not as obvious as we hope.

Love these days is not always “I’ll climb the highest mountain and swim the deepest river for you” kind of story. In fact, some guys can act like Nollywood actors… perfect lines, sweet gestures, but deep down, nothing solid. So the real question is: how do you separate genuine love from acting skills?

1. Consistency is stronger than sweet words

Any guy can tell you “I love you” morning, afternoon, and night. But the real test is whether his actions match those words consistently. Does he only show care when you’re smiling and looking fine on Instagram, but disappear when you’re down or broke? Does he keep promises or always find one excuse after another? Genuine love is not perfect, but it is steady. Fake love is like NEPA light… on today, off tomorrow.

2. Watch how he treats people that cannot benefit him

This one is very important. Some men can package love towards you, but if you watch how they talk to waiters, security guards, or even their younger siblings, you’ll see their true character. A heart that doesn’t carry kindness will eventually show you pepper. Genuine love is not just how he treats you, but how his heart naturally treats others.

3. Pay attention to how he handles “No”

Let’s be honest, saying “no” to a man is one of the fastest ways to test his love. If you say you’re not comfortable with something and he immediately guilt-trips you, withdraws, or even threatens to leave, that’s not love… that’s manipulation. A man who truly loves you will respect boundaries, even if he doesn’t like them. Because love that cannot survive “no” is not genuine love, it’s just hunger.

4. Does he involve God in Our relationship?

This one is not cliché… it’s how you can survive and sustain the relationship. If he truly loves you, he will care about your soul, not just your body. A man who genuinely loves you won’t drag you into fornication or hide you from prayer. He will pray with you, encourage you, and even correct you in love when you’re losing focus. Fake love will only chase vain enjoyment; real love will chase destiny with you.

5. Does he show up when it is inconvenient?

It’s easy to buy flowers, take cute pictures, and send long texts when things are rosy. But does he stand by you when you’re sick, stressed, or going through family wahala? Genuine love sacrifices comfort. Even if he cannot solve your problem, he’ll sit with you, encourage you, and make you feel less alone. Love that only shows up when it’s convenient is not love… it’s strategy.

6. Is he open or always hiding things?

One small sign of fake love is secrecy. He never lets you meet his friends or family, his phone is always upside down, and every question about his life is answered with “don’t worry, I’ll explain later.” Sister, abeg, shine your eye. Genuine love is not afraid of light; it is fake love that loves darkness. A man that sees you in his future won’t act like you’re a stranger to his world.

7. Love reflects in patience

Love is patient… not rushing you to places you’re not ready for. When a man genuinely loves you, he doesn’t pressure you into what you’re uncomfortable with. He respects your pace, your growth, and your values. Fake love rushes like fire, burns fast, and leaves ashes. Real love builds like a house… steady, brick by brick.

A Small Story You Can Relate To

I know a sister that once told me about her two-year relationship. On the surface, the guy was everything…calls every night, dates every weekend, gifts on her birthday. But anytime she told him about her struggles in school or her desire to get closer to God, he either mocked her or changed the topic. One day she got sick, and the same guy disappeared for two weeks, only to resurface with another excuse. She later realized he was never truly in love… just enjoying the benefits of having her around. That experience taught her that genuine love is not measured by how much fun you have together, but by how deep he’s willing to walk with you when life is not fun.

Now, Please Hear This

Love is not just in the butterflies or the sweet gist on WhatsApp at midnight. Genuine love shows itself in consistency, patience, sacrifice, and respect. Fake love will always crack when pressure comes, but true love will stand like a house built on rock.

So, when next you’re asking yourself, “Does he really love me?” don’t just check his words… check his actions, his values, and how he handles the tough moments. If you find respect, sacrifice, patience, and godly influence, then sis, you may just be looking at real love. If not, don’t ignore the signs. Your heart is too precious to be someone’s playground.