5 Silent Ways A Nigerian Guy Tests If You’re “Wife Material”
Let’s not even pretend at all… Nigerian guys can form FBI agents when it comes to testing if a lady is “wife material.” And the funny thing? Half the time you won’t even know you’re being tested. They won’t carry a clipboard or announce it like an exam… but trust me, they’re watching quietly.
Now, I’m not saying all guys behave the same. But if you’ve ever wondered, “What’s going on in his head?”… these are 5 silent ways a Nigerian guy may be checking you out.
1. How You Handle Money (Even If It’s Not Yours)
This one is deep. He might “mistakenly” give you ₦10k to hold when buying something small, just to see what happens. Do you return the balance immediately or start forming “let me quickly buy shawarma, he won’t notice”?
Real gist: my friend Kunle once told me he gave a lady ₦5k for fuel when he only needed ₦2,500. She returned the change to the last kobo. From that day, in his mind, she leveled up. Nigerian guys believe how you treat small money shows how you’ll handle bigger things later.
2. The Way You React When He’s “Broke”
Ah, this one is classic. Sometimes, a guy will intentionally say, “Babe, things tight this month” just to observe your spirit. Do you roll your eyes, start forming “God forbid suffering,” or do you encourage him, even if you don’t like it?
A Yoruba proverb says, “Tí ìṣòro bá dé, ni ìbáṣepọ̀ ń dá lójú” (When problems come, that’s when a relationship is tested). Many guys use this trick to check if you’re with them for vibes and chops or for the long run.
3. How You Treat Waiters, Security Men, and Small People
Don’t play with this one. If you’re the type that shouts at the waitress, ignores the gateman, or looks down on people… trust me, he’s taking mental notes. Nigerian guys may not always say it, but they value humility.
Scripture even says, “God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Same thing with men… nobody wants to marry pride packaged in Brazilian wig.
4. Your Circle of Friends
They may not tell you directly, but many Nigerian guys secretly study your friends. Why? Because birds of the same feather usually flock together. If all your friends are “outside babes” who live for clubs and pepper dem vibes, he’ll assume you’re on that same wavelength… even if you’re not.
One Igbo guy once said, “Show me her three closest friends, and I’ll tell you who she is in marriage.” Harsh but sometimes true.
5. How You React To “No”
This one shocks ladies. A Nigerian guy may deliberately say no to a small request just to see your reaction. Do you throw tantrums, give attitude, or start forming silent treatment? Or do you accept it gracefully?
For many men, how you handle disappointment says more than how you enjoy blessings. Nobody wants a future where every small “no” turns to World War III.
My sister, let me round up with this small advice for you… don’t waste energy trying to pass every “wife material test” a guy sets. The real deal is to build character that speaks for itself. A genuine man will see your value without you performing exam tricks.
Remember what Proverbs 31 says: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
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